Tuesday, December 30, 2008

The best antiques are old friends.

CC's post (right below) inspired me to finally make another appearance on our lovely blog...(so sorry for the neglect... and ill spare you guys the excuses)

While I was in CC's car today on the way to my house, she said something like "You do realize this summer will be our last, right?"....
I had to ignore that annoying (yet most likely true) statement....
I gave no response then but her words stuck in my mind and its the irritating kind of stuck, like when you were a kid and got gum all in your hair....(Actually, I never did I just always saw that on TV)

But honestly, no matter where your friends end up if you truly have a bond and respect and longing for one another then there will always be a way to stay connected. And in this cyber-world...pffft that's not even an issue...This is what I always say...

Like when you graduate High School, everyone buys those silly yearbooks and during the last few days together you spend time signing each others yearbooks, leaving phone numbers, email addresses... writing the same old "Stay sweet" or "Keep in touch" messages. How many of those people do you still talk to today?
It all depends on your own interest in maintaining a certain relationship... but it IS possible to keep ties....

One of my friends moved on to a different college than I did...We've kept in touch for the past 4 years through emails and once in a blue-moon phone calls (actually I think only ONCE in the entire 4 years)...a few months ago we even met up for coffee and that meeting turned into 4 hours of chatting, catching up, sharing stories and doing what I had always loved in our friendship: laughing.
I realized even though a lot had changed about who we were, our friendship and interaction was still the same.

Another one of my closest and dearest friendships was maintained mostly over the phone...even though my friend and I attended the same middle and high schools. In all those years we had maybe 1 class together and because our school (building) was small but population was large there were 3 separate lunches, so somehow I never had the same lunch-time as she did...STILL we remained best of friends throughout school. We parted ways after graduation ...attended different colleges...studied in different programs...she got married... i remained single ... she moved on to start a family, had a baby...i... still...remained...single...
OK lets not dwell on my single-ness...the point is we got even closer even though we had fewer and fewer things in common as time went on. There was always something that bonded us and that was our mutual appreciation of one another...

And so that brings me to this point: it takes TWO to tango and its a TWO-WAY road....I've had friendships that started off with a bang and we were always together and enjoying each other's company and then it all started to dwindle and die away even though we still saw each other everyday. So as long as the feeling exists in both people, the bond will continue no matter the huge physical distance between you or the small amount of shared time together....

Ok, now I feel better...do you?

6 comments:

Falling Up said...

I think the people you keep in touch the most when changes occur are the ones you never went to school with or meet everyday.

Obviously that doesn't apply to anyone, but in my case. But then again I'm such good friends with the people I met in freshman year before I moved away.

Artistic Logic said...

=)

The Fabulous Life of a Southern Belle said...

Yeah I wasn't impressed with Get Smart either.

Mrs. Cullen said...

i liked this post.

Artistic Logic said...

aww thanks

MarjnHomer said...

I had a friend who was more into her sorority than keepin ties with me but as I lost her as a best friend and now I have other great friends who I have more in common...so yeah friends change but the new ones do bring thier own luggage with them so it never gets old. i have no idea what i'm gettin at...sorry!