Hate is a strong word.
A very strong word that evokes a lot of emotion.
That being said, I hate those two words.
Float and click.
Loathe them more than anyone could ever know.
According to me, they are defined as:
Cliquey.adj.- Belonging to a click
Clique. n. -A person or group of individuals always associated with one another; Clingy; Exclusive; People who, intentionally, leave others out of their social circle.
Floater. adj. An individual who floats; one who is not associated with a group;instead this individual floats from group to group, from person to person; frankly, an individual who has a new BFF every other day.
In my opinion, they both have negative connotations. And each person can easily labeled as being one or the other. (These are both on opposite sides of the spectrum. And I'm sure there is something in the middle.)
I don't know which is worse to be, but do know when your labeled as one, you would rather be the other. That's how I've been feeling.
More recently than so, I've been labeled as being cliquey. No one has directly said it to my face, indirectly so. I apparently dont come off as cliquey, per se, but my actions may come off as such. And I dont like to delve into such personal issues and dilemmas of my life, but this one has been bothering me for quite some time. And obviously it's still bothering me. After talking in detail with a friend about this issue, she made me realize certain things that I may do that may come off as being exclusive.It has never been, in my intention, to be exclusive or leave anyone out of a "group" or be particularly associated as constantly being with one specific individual or individuals. I dont know whether or not I should go and apologize to those that may assume that I am, and say "Hey, I'm sorry if I came off as cliquey." Or whether I should just leave it because it really is not what I was trying to come off as. Either way, talking to my friend did help put things into perspective. Nor will it ever be in my intention, to become a person who hops from being "close" and having a set of close knit friends to being close with everyone and their mama. While at the same time, not revealing much about myself. I could go on and on and try to prove to others that I am not clicky (which I constantly feel like I'm doing) or I could just leave it and stop worrying about it so much. Which is easier? I dont know. Do I really need to prove something about myself to others that I should care less about? Probably not. But I'll still do it. That's the type of person I am. I dont like being associated with a word that everyone automatically hates.
I know everyone has their own opinion and from outsider's perspective, things may look a certain way. But one's assumptions, judgements, and opinions are almost always inaccurate.