Like C.A.'s post below and how a couple people completely blew her post our of proportion and took her tone a lot more seriously then it should have. C.A. didn't really find it funny. But I thought it was amusing.
Well, that's how I usually react to things.
I could talk about the time when I convinced my dad to teach my how to drive and he takes me to our local mosque/masjid's parking lot (think Muslim version of Church). It' some random day and there's not a car in sight.. Of course my dad thinks I can't do any damage, I'm only driving 15 mph. But then it happens. Oddly enough, I got confused in that BIG, EMPTY, parking lot and can't figure out which way to turn, even though there was only one direction to go in, and hit ....get this...A TREE
Yeah, I hit a tree. Complete with my dad yelling and everything. I swear I think that tree was following me around just so I would crash into it. Anyways, I started laughing...what kind of an idiot runs into a tree at almost 10 mph in a BIG, EMPTY, parking lot...the kind, that is me.
My dad, doesn't find the LOL in the moment and starts yelling at me more and then steps up his yelling when we find a dent in the car.
Anyways, I was 16, thank God that tree doesn't follow me around anymore.
Funnier thing is I'll go around telling people about moments like these cuz I think they'll lol with me or at least find it amusing, and this brings me to my other story:
Let's make my story short, I walk into a restaurant with a friend, waitress comes, I ask her about one of the dishes on the back of the menu, and she describes it to me saying that it "comes on a bed of rice", I think for a moment "Oh I thought it was a sandwich..I guess not". My food comes, first a salad and I'm just pleasantly surprised at the portion and then the food.
All the while I'm thinking, wow these people are really generous with their food. But I never even eat anything past the salad.
My bill comes, I'm being charged twice the amount that was on the menu..Confused, I get my menu to confirm the price. Yep, I didn't imagine it. I ask my waitress and she says that she brought me the dinner entree. And I ask her why did she do that when I was pointing at the back of the menu when I ordered. She apologizes to me for that but then says "I assumed you understood when I asked about the salad"
Obviously, I didn't. For some reason I decide "I'm going to take a stand on this" so I tell her that I am not paying for something I didn't order especially if I was POINTING to her my order(Now normally I would have just paid it after some arguing but something that day just was telling me No)
She talks to the owner of the restaurant, comes back and tells me that he said that I have no choice but to pay the bill.
Now, I'm following my random, but new found determination to 'take a stand' ..Shouldn't restaurants be more accommodating or understanding like, yes it was both of our faults we'll compromise...that sort of thing? Customer might not always be right, but it was AT LEAST half their fault for the confusion.
I go to talk to the owner...First thing he does...is tells me he doesn't care, then he cuts me off, then cuts me off again, and again, then brushes me aside, then the cutting thing, then walks away from me.
I got annoyed and the poor guy didn't realize this but his rude reactions triggered an automatic response in me that makes me stubborn as a brick wall.
He comes back, he's willing to compromise a little, upon MY suggestion... stupid, he charges me for the salad I ate and for the dish I wanted to order, but it was too late cuz when he had walked away from me something in me just went off.
And I basically told him No.
At the end, he was yelling, I was standing, a waitress kept showing up and displaying her disapproval of me, other customers were glancing over and then I was told to leave the restaurant..in a very loud, angry way.
Now THAT was a first.
Along with some other things that basically said that he didn't want to see my face or hear my voice and he didn't need me to pay anything. And even took my bill away...
I tried smooth talking...apparently I sucked at that...really sucked. But I was so proud of myself for not losing my temper. I even apologized to him or would have if he hadn't cut me off again.
Me and my friend tipped the waitress, randomly estimated our bill ( I only paid a guess-estimate amount for the salad) left it on the table, and walked out.
All in all, it was a very amusing situation. At the moment I felt proud for 'taking a stand' and especially for not losing my temper. I didn't yell once. I think. Either way, if I had lost my temper and trust me on this, it would not have been a pretty sight.
After we left it was an amusing moment for me, but later on, I actually tossed and turned and wondered if I did the right thing. I made a man a barely knew incredibly angry, got his employees upset, made other people uncomfortable just for the sake of what?
I dunno. I keep trying to figure out what would have been the right thing to do Islamically and I got differing opinions from my parents.
My mom says that while I did a good thing not getting angry, I should have just paid the money if I saw he was getting upset.
My dad says that I did the right thing and should have even taken up the owner's offer (or threat) and not paid them anything because of their rudeness.
So the whole thing was amusing and even funny at times, but my mom and dad failed to see the amusement in it. There was even a funny point when the owner was yelling at me and he said, "WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO? GIVE YOU FOOD FOR FREE? I'LL LOSE MY JOB!"
And I said, "First of all, of course you won't lose your job, you're the owner"
P.S. The owner
P.P.S. While I might have been wondering whether I did the right thing Islamically, I would be MORE than happy to see your guys' opinions on whether you think I did the right thing. Ciao.