Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Guess who's Back. Back again. Ramadan's Back. So tell a friend.

Dear Ramadan,

You are back, my friend. And it seems like you have come back so soon.

If I can be candid, I dont feel like I'm prepared for you this year. Actually, every year that you come I feel unprepared. It's not as if you have come out of nowhere. I have known for 11 months that you were approaching. And before you left last year, you more or less told me, I'll be back.

And so here you are again.

I feel like this time, it's a little harder having you around. The days are much, much, much longer than I have ever anticipated and expected. How will we spend our days together? Will I get bored and want to watch movies with you? Will I want time to go much faster so that we can eat and forget about the true reason you have come? Will I ignore your true purpose of being here? Will I try to teach others about your visit, try to tell them that during your time here, Muslims fast from dawn till dusk, not eating food or drinking water and abstaining from wrongful deeds such as backbiting and slandering. Will I push myself to worship God during your stay here? Or will I just sit around and do what I've been doing for the past 11 months? Nothing. Will I try to help the needy or remain selfish and help myself only. Will I want to party with my friends? Or will I want to worship/learn/engage in productive activities to increase our sisterhood and our Iman (faith) during this time.

Again, I knew this was coming, but it feels so soon. I still remember the days when you used to come in February, when the days were so much shorter. I also remember that during those visits, I was still a kid. Not yet a woman that had hit puberty and was obligated to host you. But once I did hit puberty, and I became acquainted with you, it was a little easier because I had not yet taken you so seriously (which I should have, so please forgive me) And the times when you used to come
after daylight savings time were the best times EVER. When the sun used to set at like 5 p.m and the days used to go by so much faster because we would be in school. And it would be time to break our fast right when we got home.

Now you have become a summer guest. And I believe that you will be a summer guest for the next couple of years. I'm glad you're here. Dont get me wrong, but I just wished I did so much more before you got here.

However, regardless of when you come, or how soon/late you do, welcome back, you were missed, and I'm glad you are here. Let's make the most of this visit! God willing.

With love,

Constructive Attitude


Mrs. Cullen said...


mustikasari said...

Wishing you a happy ramadhan too.. bismillah :)

Saba said...

Subhanallah, it's funny how I couldn't wait for Ramadan to be here. Now that it's here today, I'm feeling kind of unprepared. I have so many goals this Ramadan and I'm afraid whether or not I will follow through. Insha'Allah, I will.

Ramadan Kareem!

MarjnHomer said...

you forgot to mention that married couples also abstain from each other intimately..lol

Constructive Attitude said...


ummmmm...awkward. lol

Amalia said...

Happy Ramadan!

Jaz said...

happy ramadan to all the symphonic discord writers

Muslim Girl said...

Ramadan Kareem :)

PI said...

marjnhomer- they can still have intimacy after breaking the fast =p

Facta Non Verba said...

Ramadan Kareem to one of my fav. blogs and bloggers individually.!

supreem said...

this put things in an interesting perspective for me. thanks! happy ramadan!

Kate said...

Happy Ramadan. Best wishes to you during this time. My kids that celebrate this celebrate at the end of September and also again in December. How and why does this happen, if you would be so kind to explain this to me.


Rationality said...

Ramadan Mubarak
It's Awkward but nice
Just embrace your dear friend deeply by reading Quran as much as you can :)
Happy Ramadan

Constructive Attitude said...

Kate: That's weird. Unless your students are just fasting extra days during the year (which a lot of people do for special occasions or for extra good deeds), Muslims are only obligated to fast once per year during the month of Ramadan. Of course people always fast extra days to make up for fasts that they may have missed.

And the month of Ramadan changes every year, it actually goes backward one month because we follow the lunar calendar. So next year, we are probably going to be fasting in July/August. Whereas last year we fast August/September. And again this year we are fasting August/September.

Hope that clears things up!

Kate said...

So interesting. Thanks for the info! Since I teach young kids most of them don't fast (although I would fully support any that did). I know that every year in September and December they are gone for 2 days and come back having a feast and having new clothes to wear!?

Constructive Attitude said...

Ohhhhhhhhhh you're probably talking about "Eid". We have two Eid celebrations (again they change every year due to us following the lunar calendar). One Eid is after Ramadan, and it is called Eid ul Fitr, and it marks the end of Ramadan and literally means the "break of the fast".

The other Eid is called Eid ul adha and it usually happens a couple months after Eid ul Fitr.

And both are festive holidays where we go to the mosque, spend time with family and friends and exchange gifts.

So THAT is what your kids are probably celebrating twice per year :)

Kate said...

Yes, yes. Thanks so much for clearing that up for me. I did know that, but it must have been misfiled in my brain. Thanks for putting up with my ignorance.

I am always so proud to see how my kids handle Ramadan and Eid (especially since that means they don't celebrate Halloween or Christmas). They seem very content with their families traditions and not envious of others.

I always have between 7-10 practicing Muslims in my class each year. When I first started teaching I expected to know what "Muslims" looked like. It was very interesting because all my Bosnian kids celebrate it too.

It's difficult for kids because people make assumptions about their religion based on their looks. Often Somali immigrants are Muslim as well as the Bosnians (we have a large population of both in the town where I live). However people assume that Bosnians aren't because they're white and the immigrants from Sudan are expected to be Muslim (just because they are African) when most are Christian.

Anyway, I am babbling on. Thanks for clearing that up for me. It must be hard not to know exactly when to plan festivities and such!