It's all about me

These days, people are obsessed with themselves. I think we owe much of it to all those social networking sites. Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc has created millions of mini self-obsessed monsters. Don't you think so? It's all about me, right? I'm guilty of it, too. Of course I'm not speaking for everyone out there, but I noticed it has become more and more the norm. At the gym? In class? Out with your Boo? Update your status or send out tweets and let the world know. Everyone's a celebrity. I do use facebook and used to have Twitter, but I'm too lazy for self-promotion. I don't know how I'd be if I wasn't such a lump slouching on the couch all day. Who knows? Maybe I'd be a self-proclaimed celebrity, too.

I'm not hating on them, promise. But I do think it's a bit silly. But more importantly: is it a good thing or a bad thing? You post a picture up, you know the kind I'm talking about. The I'm-fishing-for-compliments one. And everyone oohs and ahhs over it regardless of whether they think it's great or not. Oh, and you KNOW it's for compliments because then I hear people complaining about how no one commented on their picture. *sigh*

Compliments are great, but I like them better when they come from people I actually interact with and hang out with. Not people I don't know very well and see once every two years. People who I see everyday. My friends  or sisters who aren't afraid to tell me I look ugly when appropriate.  Maybe these compliments help lift one's self esteem but does it too much? I think there needs to be a balance between low self esteem and thinking you're the hottest thing alive.

I was a little chubby in my preteens and got teased by it. That affected me a lot. and crushed my self-esteem. I have a kid sister and I'd rather her think herself beautiful than insecure of herself. How do I do that without it getting to her head? My mother never showered us with compliments when we were younger. I recently asked her why and she said we're pretty enough and she "didn't want it to get to my head. " Wait, was that a compliment in itself?

So if you had to choose, which would you prefer and why? {A} people crying over how ugly they are or {B} people who think their God's gift to the world? I know that these are two extremes, but if you had to, which would you pick? It's a tough decision. But I think I'd rather be option B. Because at least I'd have a little confidence. But there are major pros and cons for both. I'd rather be B, but I wouldn't like myself if I met me.

Actually I wouldn't like myself if I were A either. They're just really extreme, but I thin there are more A's and B's cmoing up and not enough of a mixture of both.

Writing this post reminded me of Zoolander:

• Derek Zoolander: I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is.
• Derek Zoolander: Well I guess it all started the first time I went through the second grade. I caught my reflection in a spoon while I was eating my cereal, and I remember thinking "wow, you're ridiculously good looking, maybe you could do that for a career."
  Matilda: Do what for a career?
  Derek Zoolander: Be professionally good looking.  
• Derek Zoolander: Why do you hate models, Matilda?
  Matilda: Honestly?
  Hansel: Yes.
  Matilda: I think they're vain, stupid, and incredibly self-centered.
  Hansel: I totally agree with you. But how do you feel about male models?  
• Derek Zoolander: I'm sorry that good-looking people like us made you throw up and feel bad about yourself. 
• Derek Zoolander: So join now, 'cause at the Derek Zoolander Center For Kids Who Can't Read Good And Wanna Learn To Do Other Stuff Good Too, we teach you that there's more to life than just being really, really, really good looking. Right kids?